tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post2194895645556109763..comments2023-06-28T04:44:51.253-04:00Comments on Paleo PA Student: Happy November, though I'm a little late.Internal Peacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158669200874811632noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-459231448909475262009-11-04T19:03:29.600-05:002009-11-04T19:03:29.600-05:00oh no...sorry to hear you're having roomie tro...oh no...sorry to hear you're having roomie troubles..it is so stressful to be in an unhappy living situation- i really feel for you! i used to have trouble saying anything to my roomies also but regarding your boyfriend's concerns...i have no trouble telling my bf everything i think he's doing wrong now that we live together :) i hope everything works out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-43743352657798601702009-11-03T23:18:38.977-05:002009-11-03T23:18:38.977-05:00It is so hard to confront people. But think of how...It is so hard to confront people. But think of how much better you'll feel after. What's the worst thing that could happen? I hate talking to people about what bothers me, but in the end, I'd rather just have everything out in the open. Praying for you and peace!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758932883732204080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-29801445447473161102009-11-03T22:03:17.185-05:002009-11-03T22:03:17.185-05:00Oh I thought the same thing as Sophia!! Whoopsss! ...Oh I thought the same thing as Sophia!! Whoopsss! :) Now I know! <br /><br />I'm so sorry you are going through all this, well, crap! I wish I could make it all better. I know it's hard, but you NEED to make some sort of connection with her. Nothing's going to change if you don't do anything. I am a total people pleaser and understand what you are feeling.<br /><br />Sorry about the issues that are occurring with the boyfriend...I hope things work out for the best!<br /><3 jess<br />xoxoJesshttp://www.havefaith4ever.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-42407454526025734452009-11-03T17:38:01.827-05:002009-11-03T17:38:01.827-05:00Oh dear. I'm so sorry you're going through...Oh dear. I'm so sorry you're going through all this crap. My roommate drives me nuts sometimes too, but not to the degree of yours. I say, you really need to get a chat in with her. If you can't do it face-to-face, what about just shooting her an email? Best of luck, and remember that being passive is not a good thing. Perhaps this is a way God is using to be more aggressive in some things?<br /><br />Oh, and I had NO IDEA who you were at first...Haha! I'm used to you as Lisa, not Internal Peace, and you did not leave an url so I thought you were just some random reader! x-pSophiahttp://burpandslurp.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-2474361669090924392009-11-03T16:13:34.396-05:002009-11-03T16:13:34.396-05:00I can understand how you feel re your room mate. I...I can understand how you feel re your room mate. I mean you still have to live with her. I hate confrontation and usually avoid it up till the point where I explode and I think that makes things worse. I think if you sit your room mate down and say we need to have a chat and talk calmly that's so much better than letting it get to you so much it spoils everything else in your life.<br />I hope you can sort it out.<br /><br />Taylor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-18814111867902293772009-11-03T07:28:09.887-05:002009-11-03T07:28:09.887-05:00I definitely understand not wanting to say anythin...I definitely understand not wanting to say anything for the risk of making the situation even more uncomfortable.... been there! But not even locking your front door??? I mean, that's just unsafe. I think you are definitely justified in saying something to her, and maybe finding the courage to talk things through with her would help with the boyfriend situation as well. You can do it!! :)Michellehttp://learnruneatrepeat.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-71241858822667464632009-11-03T06:28:13.872-05:002009-11-03T06:28:13.872-05:00Honestly, that was one of the harder things I'...Honestly, that was one of the harder things I've ever had to learn... how to stand up for myself, even though I am definitely a people pleaser and hate conflict. But by being this way, people --including my loved ones-- automatically took advantage of me. It's almost like they couldn't HELP it, because I was basically inviting them to do it! It's a hard habit to break though, I admit... I'm still working on this myself. :)<br /><br />You can be kind and loving, without being a doormat. Your roommate may balk at first but only because she might have the idea now that you have no opinions or wishes/wants, but she will grow used to the idea and she (and everyone else!) will ultimately respect you more. It ultimately works out to both your and their benefit. Don't you prefer to be around people you like AND respect?<br /><br />You are a wonderful person and you deserve to feel safe and respected in your own space, just as much as anyone else. I'm sure you are very easygoing when it comes to other things, so don't feel bad about being assertive on 2 or 3 things that are important (and they are issues that would be important to EVERYONE!).<br /><br />Good luck! :)Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08750564126542757754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2166175721427773229.post-6801405303980479852009-11-02T22:31:39.274-05:002009-11-02T22:31:39.274-05:00I have the same issues sometimes with standing up ...I have the same issues sometimes with standing up for myself but I am getting better and better at it. You can do it, just muster up the courage. It doesn't require being rude. You can be respectful, but still be able to convey how you feel. Try it, It's so much better in the long run<br /><br />Good luckKristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13086265089170309998noreply@blogger.com